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We’ve all sat around with friends and had the conversation. We’ve all heard it before, the same things.   “It wasn’t big enough to satisfy me : (“ “I really like it to be big … and it was smaller than I wanted.” “How can I get a bigger one? I’m worried that mine isn’t satisfying people.” “It wasn’t even close to full : (“ “Is this big enough? Like, what’s normal?!?!?!”   Yeah. It’s time to talk about size, and whether it matters! Crowd size, of course. So, let’s do this. Let

By Rhonda Hoffman Is Second Life Drag? One of my favourite things to do in Second Life is style my avatar. It isn’t passive or idle. It’s deliberate. Hair, skin, shape, clothes, posture. Each choice is expressive, not decorative. I know what I’m doing when I do it, and I enjoy the craft of it. My son was standing behind me while I was working on my avatar, Mavenn. Watching quietly. Then he said, very matter-of-factly, “Mavenn is your drag.” He wasn’t teasing. He wasn’t mocki

If you know me, you are likely aware of my strong opposition to the erosion of liberty and democracy in American and across many other countries. In fact, my current involvement in promoting music and co-owning venues in SL grew out of the opportunity to work with Blue to stage music events to protest against fascism and tyranny. In a post yesterday that I put on Primfeed , I talked about the execution of an innocent, peaceful protester in Minneapolis. When I wrote that we ha

By Rhonda Hoffman Irony is often a protective posture. It lets people participate without risk. You can comment without committing. You can joke without revealing what matters to you. If something fails, you were never really invested. In many online spaces, irony has become the default mode of expression. It keeps people safe from embarrassment and disappointment, but it also keeps them distant from one another. Everything stays light because nothing is allowed to matter. En